There’s a way to be happy, and YOU’RE IN CHARGE! Enjoy these insightful tips from Ruthie, gleaned from the fields of true life!
Imagine finding that within yourself! Joy, Peace and the the fulfillment of all your dreams! But, like a hose that is not attached to the faucet, no water will come through until: 1- It’s connected to the source and 2- The flow is turned on. We cannot blame the source for the lack of itself. Only what is in the way of it getting through!
When we cling to our burdens, emotional hurts and upsets, we’re letting go of JOY.
WHY? Because that’s what we’re paying attention to!
Holding tightly to our problems, unhealthy beliefs, struggles and upsets only makes things worse and gets in the way of our progress. Most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it. These ‘Automatic Negative Thoughts’ can be undone with divine guidance. Repetition of our early programming got us into it, and repeatedly asking for divine help can get us out!
What is rattling around in there?
Are you afraid they mean that you are somehow unworthy or unlovable?
Or do you immediately assume the worst? You may be suffering from DYSFUNCTIONAL LISTENING because of pain and trauma of the past.
When you were little, people may have laughed at you, ignored or punished you for your feelings – and you faithfully learned to stuff them. But perpetually ignoring your feelings makes you feel discounted and you will come to the wrong conclusion about your value and worth as a human being. You subconsciously begin believing a lie that you are worthless and unimportant. And as soon as you believe a lie, the lie become a PREJUDICE, which is: A VERDICT in search of EVIDENCE. And from then on you are looking for things to support that conclusion. And you will always find what you will be looking for things to support that conclusion.
The truth is that your feelings are a sacred gift from God, telling you something.
What is it? It’s YOU. You have a unique path to travel, and only YOU can discover God’s direction for you.
How you really feel will open the door to deeper truths that will free you further.
What if you get your feelings hurt by someone but don’t tell them. Why don’t you? Are you afraid they won’t love you, or that they really don’t care how you feel and will reject you for it? And then what might happen next? That you may end up alone? That’s just one example of how FEAR can keep us from finding the Truth, and trap you into not speaking your mind. And fear destroys Love.
ASK the other person if what you heard them say is actually what they really meant.
Have the courage to face the truth, whatever the outcome. What’s the worse thing that can happen? You will be in good company with yourself either way.
Others may misunderstand you at times too because of their ‘wrongly processed information”.
This old saying says it well:
“I know you believe what you THINK I said, but I am not sure you realize that what you HEARD is not what I MEANT!”
One night I was pondering how to express visually the way the mind can block our joy and trick us into being afraid because of things that have happened in the past. As I was waking up the next morning this picture came to me of the shadows of the past that torment us. And when we look at them they lose their power.
That source of life and wisdom is speaking to you all the time JUST ON THE OTHER SIDE OF YOUR BLOCKS!
When you reach that divine spark within it will blow a hole in the wall by quieting the monkey brain and open the door for the light to stream in. Then as you begin taking in new information – without filtering – you can begin to observe yourself from a higher perspective. Soon you will see yourself the way your higher self sees you: As a precious child of God with inherent value.
1- What are you feeling? Sad? Lonely, hurt, desperate, anxious, angry?
2- Why are you feeling this way?
3- Have you ever felt this before?
4- When did you feel it in the past?
5- Where did this feeling first start?
6- What are you afraid it means about you? (that you’re no good, etc.)
7- Is that true? Or have you been believing a lie? What is the truth under it?
Notice Where you feel it in your body. Concentrate on feeling it deeply. Put your hand over that spot and inwardly send it love and light. When old feelings of sadness, pain, shame, or anger are awakened in you from your earliest memories, this feeling will get to it’s core,revealing the lie that you feared was true about you.
The huge range of BLOCKS to our JOY include: Negative emotions, false beliefs and defense mechanisms, originating from fear, shame and anger due to victimization issues and trauma. The list below shows a few examples followed by positive affirmations of truth to counteract them. See if you identify with any of these:
From now on, as you observe each thought as it passes by, only allow to stay in your mind those that agree with higher truth. When you spot a feeling that leads you to believe a lie, UNDO it by declaring the TRUTH that you ARE NOW and HAVE ALWAYS BEEN of GREAT WORTH, precious and deserving as a child of a loving Heavenly father.
You can’t go back and change the past, but you can start from now and make a brand new ‘end’!
Even if you have the kindest of intentions to help others, instead of trying to force things to work out ‘the way YOU think is right’, LET GO AND LET GOD.
Relax and accept that things are somehow part of a bigger plan and the God of your Understanding knows more than YOU do! You won’t be disappointed in the end.
I love what my obstetrician, Rikki Hendrix said of his view of God. He said,
“My view of God is kinda the way my dog looks at me when I come home from work. He could never understand in a million years what I do for a living. But he knows I’ll feed Him.”
Pray, “Thank you God that I can put my trust in you.”
Relax. Somebody Bigger than you is in charge.
Your truth will get brighter and brighter as you begin looking at yourself from a higher perspective.
Do you doubt yourself? Think that something might be too hard for you to do? Then answer this:
According to scientific research, if you can walk, or talk, then you’ve already been able to accomplish the hardest thing you’ll ever be called upon to learn!
OK. That means that you have no more excuses. You can never again say, “It’s too hard. I can’t do that.”
Never let someone else tell YOU, “You Can’t Do That”, either.
If you’ve learned to walk and talk as a baby, NOTHING can stop you now!
So. What’s your next step?
Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon, Spirit-Led-Supermoms