You love others.

Are you ready to be TRULY  loved, yourself?

When you become a mom, whether in body, or in spirit, you are ushered into a secret club, giving you a depth of experience and fellowship I call, ‘The Brotherhood of Motherhood’.

You’re never the same again, and better for it.

Could your mom or dad ever have loved you like this? 

Yes. But maybe you never had the chance to realize it til you became a parent yourself:

YOU are only here because someone worked hard to keep you alive when you were little.

You always want the best for them and lift up your child’s spirit and encourage their dreams.

Everyone you meet becomes someone else’s precious child and you want the best for THEM, too.

And YOU begin to understand that YOU deserve to be loved and cared for, too. 

But who will do it? YOU are the adult now, and must take care of yourself. 

You’re beginning to see there’s a bigger picture. 

Something’s missing.

You’ve been the one giving all along. To everyone but yourself.

I know what it’s like. In my first marriage I tried really hard to be the person I thought I was supposed to be.

I thought that ‘real love’ meant: Always giving in, never allowing myself to have a negative emotion (including admitting pain or needing anything for myself).

I was a ‘give-a-holic’, employing the survival strategy I learned growing up:


The more I stuffed my feelings to please others, the further they got away from me.

I was like a ‘Stepford Wife’, robotically doing as she was told.

Pretty soon I didn’t feel anything.

"I Used to be such a nice person!"
“I Used to be such a nice person!”

It took many years to discover what was missing. 

Like a stool that cannot stand without at least three legs, 

there are THREE FOUNDATIONS of a truly loving relationship.

I’ll be sharing those foundations in my upcoming Master Class: 


How loving YOURSELF can make you MORE loving to others.

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PS- I know I could charge for this, but this is my free gift to you.

 Am I still a ‘giv-a-holic’? Maybe a little.

It does make me feel so good.

But now I give out of a new found abundance of learning to love myself!

And what I can GIVE is never as much as I GET from the giving. 

And you are the lucky recipient of the overflow.

I’ll LOOK for YOU on the other side!

Ruth Elliott-HILSDON, Mom of 7,
Founder and Director of Edu Designs,
Emmy Award Winning Animation Artist,
Musician, Author and Coach to
Spirit Led Supermoms. 




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    I just finished reading your amazing 9 TIPS TO KEEP YOU FROM FREAKING OUT! As a coach to parents of tweens and teens, one of my key messages is calm parenting…you give excellent FOUNDATIONAL keys to helping parents become more responsive rather than reactive. So practical. So true.

    Deaunna Evans
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    “Ruth Elliot Hilsdon, founder of EDU DESIGNS is a unique and genuinely heart-centered person. I have known her for years and watched her raise her 7 children into socially aware and contributing adults. As Director of EDU DESIGNS she continues to ‘walk her talk’ by selflessly sharing her knowledge, experience and expertise, giving children a creative foundation that enriches and balances their lives… and ours as well.”
    Gary Schindler
    Attorney, American Airlines
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    “I am a teacher in a head start program in Tuscaloosa, AL, children ages 3-5yrs. Most of these children have behavior issues and are being put on time out constantly but none of that seemed to work… After listening to you speak on TV today, I decided to get to your website. I will use your material in my classroom to help these children. Thanks for all you do. God bless you!”

    Mrs. Appiah-Opoku


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