Ruth Elliott

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WHY DOES BAD STUFF WEIGH MORE THAN GOOD STUFF?

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WHY DOES BAD STUFF WEIGH MORE THAN GOOD STUFF?

LET’S FACE IT.

IT SUCKS WHEN SOMEONE HAS BEEN MEAN TO YOU.

They can do and say the nicest things, and then annihilate them all with a single word.

What gives them the right to disparage your value and worth as a human being?

We are all divine spirits in earthly bodies, each and every one.

I don’t think we should put up with that kind of crap.

So what should you do? Cut off the relationship?

YES, IF possible.

But what if it’s NOT possible?

What if the person is just mentally disabled or emotionally immature?

Or one of your relatives?

The audio here gives an example of how I used “LOVE and LIMITS” to gently get the message across without needing to be an asshole, myself.

Bad Stuff Weighs More

It might work for you.

Though they probably won’t like it.

Especially if you’re dealing with a narcissist.

When they keep hurting your feelings, you are under no obligation to hang out with them just because they’re related to you.

And even if you do have a no-kill policy in your family’s ‘shelter’, and want to include them, there are special pens for dogs like that at the pound. It’s not healthy to allow anyone to assault you verbally when they don’t get their own way or can’t control you.

Mel Robbins says if you are dealing with a narcissist, it’s a no-win situation. They don’t have the software you do for empathy. Even if you think they are suddenly being nice again, it doesn’t mean that they are changing. She explains in this video that, “It’s not change. It’s manipulation, wrapped up in affection.” Real change will be long lasting.

You have to protect your own sanity. Learn what you’re dealing with. Even if you are trying to ‘help’ a person, don’t let yourself be emotionally abused, intimidated or controlled by anyone. If your love has not helped, get out of their way and let the world teach them. If that doesn’t work, maybe it’ll take what Jack E. Leonard said,

“There’s nothing wrong with you [or them] that reincarnation won’t cure.”

I SURVIVED!

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7 kids and a FULL TIME JOB? How could I make it with all that work and no one to help?

SEE what I DID in this exciting introduction to Spirit Led Supermoms!

I was in so much pain back then, that I want YOU to benefit from the experience I learned the HARD way.

In my members-only support group we share how to get through the struggles facing us.

This is my gift to you, because YOU are more important than you KNOW!

Looking forward to seeing you survive and shine!

Sending Light and Love,

It’s OK, I’m you, too!
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THE MAGIC OF MAYBE

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Being a people pleaser, when my kids were little it was hard for me to say, “NO”.

But I knew it wasn’t good for them to always get their own way.

Then I found a secret!

When your kids ask for something that you probably need to say “No” to, instead responding sharply, we can say

“Maybe. Let me think about it.”

That way you you have given them some hope without being the big meanie and crushing their dreams.

Don’t do this all the time, however, or they will start thinking that ‘maybe’ means ‘no’!

And there are lots of ways to say, “No” without being harsh or cruel.

The main thing is to allow the child to feel as though you are on his side and you are not opposing him in his ambitions.

You can say, “Not this time, Honey” or “ Hey, that’s a great idea! Right now is not a good time, but maybe we can do that someday!”

Also if it’s a desire for a thing, like a toy or a pet you know you cannot afford the time or money for, there are lots of ways to work with that desire.

One is to allow the child to create a dream board:

Encourage them to draw a picture of the thing, event or experience they want.
Then draw a picture of them playing with the toy, pet or doing the activity.
Next put it on a poster board or on the wall for them to see.

In the process they will also learn to clarify what it is they want, and how it will fit into their life.

Tell them this is important in achieving our dreams, that just because you can’t have something now, doesn’t mean you won’t be able to get it in the future.

This will teach them that things “take time to happen overnight” and that it is part of the process to get your own way through patience and forward thinking.

You want your kids to grow up to the most loving, creative and positive people on earth, RIGHT?

Find out more HERE.

Blessings!

WHY THE FLY?

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GET KIDS TO UNDERSTAND

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Dear One!

Do you ever get frustrated trying to communicate with your kids? Spouse? Boss?

WATCH THIS SHORT VIDEO TO LEARN how MY 3 ‘R’s can help you have better communication with ANYONE!

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It’s the time for YOU to GET UNSTRESSED and BE BLESSED!

I want you to achieve the Wellness, Energy, Family Harmony and Inner Peace you need.

In my Stressed Supermom’s Survival Group you’ll positively GET life-saving skills to not just survive, but THRIVE!

This is my love offering to you, so if you haven’t already done it already, go ahead and get on my mailing list, NOW!

Once you’ve signed up, go to my Members-Only FB group, HERE and ask to ‘JOIN’.

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I look forward to ‘seeing’ you SOON!

Sending Light and Love,

Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon
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GOD Did NOT Invent HURRY

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The Finnish have a saying:

“GOD DID NOT INVENT HURRY.”

My Poppa was Finnish, so I joke that I was half Finnish before I was started.

However the part of me that isn’t, keeps rushing to get it all done!

When my kids were little there was always a long list of things to do before I could get to the things I WANTED to do.

That’s why I developed time-saving devices, like my idea of matching socks, which was:

“ONE ON EACH FOOT!” (Mothers will understand that means, “Who cares if they match!”)

Do you ever get out from under the pressure?

Now that my kids are grown, I can assure you that there IS life after kids.

It isn’t fast or easy, but like any good thing, it’s worth waiting for.

WHAT CAN YOU DO IN THE MEANTIME?

SLOW DOWN

TAKE THE LONG VIEW

GET HELP FROM OTHERS

LET PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES

YOUR PERFECTION IS NOT REQUIRED (Progress, not Perfection!)

EVERYTHING TAKES LONGER THAN YOU THINK IT WILL . . . and

TWO WEEKS AFTER YOU ARE DEAD YOUR HOUSE WILL NEED CLEANING AGAIN!

SO . . .

TAKE PEACE NOW and REALIZE …

HOW AMAZING YOU ARE. . . THAT YOU CAN DO ANYTHING AT ALL!

MY HURRICANE WEEK

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October brought a hurricane to Florida that year. . .

And there was one in MY LIFE, too. Everything collided.

Taxes were due! Kids got sick. Important ‘fun’ social events were scheduled. An irrevocable appointment was approaching.

OMG. ALL IN THE SAME WEEK! I was racing to get it all done. Even the fun stuff wasn’t fun.

How was I to make it through?

ONE:

Stop. Breathe. Pray.

Remember:

TWO:

Observe myself.

Are your shoulders tight? Do your arms ache? Can you manage to STOP long enough to FOCUS? RELAX and remember it’s the nature of life to swing from pairs of opposites, from happy to sad, peaceful to chaotic, etc., etc.

The only way to get through it is to get above it, and not get sucked in by the drama below.

THREE:

Take these steps to stay balanced in Body, Mind and Emotions:

BODY: Pay attention to your body’s needs. FEEL yourself. Are you tired? Dehydrated? When your body is worn out, you need to recharge your batteries.

MIND: Slow down. WATCH your mind. Learn to meditate. Meditation helps you quiet your mind and make you more aware of what you are actually feeling in your body, thinking in your mind and feeling in your emotions. And remember what you’ve been forgetting.

EMOTION: Are you full of love, joy and peace? Or anger, frustration and resentment? What things have gotten in the way of being the person you want to be? Examine your heart to face what you are feeling. Then reach out to someone you trust.

FOUR:

Communicate Your Needs

There is wisdom in reaching out for help.

We all need each other.

Watch this video.

NO WAY TO STAY CLEAN

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No way to stay clean…

Why is it that you can’t get something clean without getting dirty in the process?

The biggest slob I know won’t touch anything filthy or yucky. No way.

“EWE! I’m not getting near THAT!”

So the result is, that the mess sits. And sits. And sits.

But of course, they are not parents – yet.

Imagine if we just let the baby sit in their poop forever.

The baby would die.

There’s no way around it:

In order to get rid of something bad you must get in there and face the awful truth.

No matter how bad it smells.

Yep. We can’t let the baby die, so we face the poop.

I think God invented babies so we would learn to finally grow up.

And dealing with the poop in our little ones, we begin to see who we really are.

How mean and selfish we are only thinking of ourselves all the time.

And in the process something wonderful happens.

We begin becoming people who do truly care about others.

ALL CLEAN NOW!

Once our little ones are clean and neat again, they’re so beautiful. And sweet. And lovable.

Even though you know they will get dirty again.

We can forgive them for that. They can’t help themselves.

Were we ever so precious? We were. And still are, underneath it all. You’re still cleanable!

So don’t give up.

YOU ARE FORGIVABLE, TOO!

When I first imagined I wanted kids, way back in 1970 B.C. (Before Children) I pondered what I would tell my (future) kids if they ever screwed up so royally they were afraid to come home!

Then I wrote this song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cxu8Lgu_to4&feature=youtu.be

When my seven kids were grown I finally recorded it.

Some things take time to happen overnight.

And I still feel the same about my kids.

Naughty or good, I love them.

Naughty or good we are all God’s children.